September 19, 2011
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Counseling Updates
We’ve gone every week for about a month and I’ve noticed so many changes. It amazes me each time. I’m more honest with him and with myself and it’s a very refreshing change. The biggest change is that we were able to be on vacation together w/o fighting, more talking, more sex, more quality time. That made the vacation awesome.
We started in San Antonio. I love this sleepy, romantic town. As people say, there isn’t much to do besides, shop, eat, sex. SOLD! Saturday night we went to a bar, hoping to run into his uncle. It’s an older crowd and the music is always eclectic, but danceable. I love dancing with my husband, and I was so glad we were able to incorporate this into our vacation. Sunday, we met up with one of my gfs and had a delicious breakfast at this place called Magnolia Pancake Haus. So yummy! I discovered something here that deserves its own separate blog entirely.
The big part of the trip was getting away from everything. Enter Wendover, NV. It’s a small casino town that borders Utah and is only a couple hours from Salt Lake City, UT. The town itself has a lot of history, specifically WW2. (Pushes glasses up on nose). I was pretty impressed with all the history I didn’t know about and that was my favorite part of the vacation, learning, with my husband. It was a great trip. Another bonus about this location is that it’s a hotbed for older people. So everywhere we looked we were seeing old couples together. We were the youngest kids on the trip. It’s not Vegas, but it is definitely one of those, wanna get away type trips. There’s not tons of stuff to do so relaxing/resting are exactly what you get plenty of on this type of trip. SOLD!
When we returned, we sunk back into our normal routines, but kept up the sex part and this was so huge for me. I was really happy to report all this to the counselor last week. He’s given us some homework, specifically some reading. I’ve started with The Five Love Languages. There’s a quiz on that site and I was very impressed to find out that my language is physical touch. Duh! Husbands is Gifts of Service/Physical touch, but not as strong as mine were. He was 7/12 for both those categories, while I was 11/12 for physical touch. Take the quiz, have your husband take the quiz. It’s free. I made my parents do it last night. Love is a choice. The book talks about how you’re only in that “in love” phase for 2 years and after that you have to make a conscious effort to love the way you do naturally, but also love the way your spouse receives love.
I’m back to being happily married and we’ve returned to spending time with my family and that makes me over the top happy. I still need to spend time with my MIL, but now I understand that this is a gift of service I was witholding. I’m looking forward to the reward for my gift.
Comments (5)
this post made me happy. yay!
I love reading that your marriage is being put back together, and even stronger for it. (Totally taking the quiz and making my husband take it too)
@X_naomi_X - @sahel578 - Thank you! It’s been a long road, but so worth the journey. There was that random CD I found at church one day, and the most profound thing said on the thing was “I can only change myself.” My small changes have positively returned and for that I am thankful.
I’m glad things are going well!!
I read that book once but I never took the quiz…it sounded interesting, though!
Took the quiz! A did too! Such a simple thing and its helping us as well… because now I think I have a better idea of how to show him that I appreciate him and he understands that putting the laundry away means more than flowers or jewelry. Thank you!