April 26, 2013
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Employment
So while I've been climbing the ladder, husband lost his job at the end of January. It was definitely a pivotal moment in our marriage. I was definitely at times feeling neglected, unappreciated and undervalued with his previous position. I used to think about something like this happening and him finally realizing that I am one pretty awesome wife and not the nag he liked to think I was. I was supportive, but if I caught him on facebook while I was working, I definitely got annoyed. Like, um, sir.... can you get to job hunting and not playing around on facebook? In my defense, facebook would send me alerts every time he blew his nose on facebook. I don't know how to turn that on/off from my phone other than turning facebook off, which I did. I'll log out so it doesn't constantly alert me to nonsense. Anywho, he finally came around and started paying more attn to me. He started doing things for me (making dinner, helping with laundry, grocery shopping, getting my car washed and recently tinted the windows on my car). It was beyond lovely. Some of the things I'd ask for and some of the things he'd just do or offer to do for me. It definitely made the TTC mission easier. He was/is totally on board with that. Thankfully.
That's not to say it wasn't hard to get up every morning and go to work while he got to sleep in. That sucked. I'm glad we finally had a vacation together. We fight a whole lot less now. He's not overly focused on work like he was. And I have some awesome co-workers that suggest companies/opportunities for him. I do love where I work. I love my job and I love how valued I feel at work. I definitely dress sexier for the office, but thankfully, I was validated by a mgr that's known me since I started. He said I went from conservative to tasteful.... Husband said, of course he's going to say that. He doesn't want you to stop dressing sexy. LOL!
That's another thing that changed with him losing his job. He was all of a sudden more aware of my actions, dress, and happenings in the office. It changed my marriage. I really hope that the next job he chooses, he won't soon forget my importance, value and will continue to appreciate me. It's been quite a refreshing change.
Comments (3)
Wow, I had no idea! It sounds like this hiatus has been a good recharge for your marriage, which is great.
That's awesome to really be able to feel that out of every downfall, a positive outcome can come along!
I am fortunate that I have always had a job but I imagine it is tough for a guy to not have one.